the other night i was curled up in a blanket with my wife, kara, chatting + sipping tea - sounds charming, i know. we don't have a tv so it's what we do. and yes, we actually enjoy this time together without the television.
anyways, i happened upon an article while surfing my news feed earlier that day and shared with her what the cheapest countries were to live in. i was shocked at how low the cost of living was in some countries. $70/month rent to live in a one bedroom apartment in nepal? and only $50/month for heat, electricity, water & trash?
man, i could move there and live for an entire year for what it costs to rent here for one month! that's how they do it i exclaimed to her.
a sad expression formed on her face, I'm confused, i thought we were looking for a house?
and this was our opportunity to connect
we opened up about our feelings. what we wanted? what we needed? and then we let down our guards and voiced our fears. i confessed my fears of security and money. and how i wanted to make sure we lived the life we wanted but wasn't sure how to do it. and the fear of not having the time to experience everything i want to do. i put it all out there in the open - something i've been afraid to do in the past. it felt so good to bond with her. to really share my deepest fears & feel her support back for me. she poured her heart right back, and we shared a really special moment.
and we did something unexpected!
we exposed what i believe is the ultimate question, why? why do we do the things we do?
kara's eyes sparkled - i love when they do this by the way, "love is the answer"
i almost fell over when i heard her say those words, literally i was stunned.
no, not because i disagreed with her but more - i completely agreed with her!
i ran to get my computer.
i pointed at the screen, i wrote those exact words on my homepage earlier that day "love is the answer"
this is why i do what i do - love!