the ultimate question, why?

the other night i was curled up in a blanket with my wife, kara, chatting + sipping tea - sounds charming, i know. we don't have a tv so it's what we do. and yes, we actually enjoy this time together without the television.

anyways, i happened upon an article while surfing my news feed earlier that day and shared with her what the cheapest countries were to live in. i was shocked at how low the cost of living was in some countries. $70/month rent to live in a one bedroom apartment in nepal? and only $50/month for heat, electricity, water & trash? 

man, i could move there and live for an entire year for what it costs to rent here for one month! that's how they do it i exclaimed to her.

a sad expression formed on her face, I'm confused, i thought we were looking for a house?

and this was our opportunity to connect

we opened up about our feelings. what we wanted? what we needed? and then we let down our guards and voiced our fears. i confessed my fears of security and money. and how i wanted to make sure we lived the life we wanted but wasn't sure how to do it. and the fear of not having the time to experience everything i want to do. i put it all out there in the open - something i've been afraid to do in the past. it felt so good to bond with her. to really share my deepest fears & feel her support back for me. she poured her heart right back, and we shared a really special moment.

and we did something unexpected!

we exposed what i believe is the ultimate question, why? why do we do the things we do?

kara's eyes sparkled - i love when they do this by the way, "love is the answer"

i almost fell over when i heard her say those words, literally i was stunned.

no, not because i disagreed with her but more - i completely agreed with her!

i ran to get my computer.

i pointed at the screen, i wrote those exact words on my homepage earlier that day "love is the answer"

this is why i do what i do - love!

 
 that's us on our honeymoon.  i love you kara

that's us on our honeymoon. i love you kara

 

i’d love to hear why you’re doing what you're doing. please leave me a comment below.

and as always, thank you in advance for sharing with such compassion and insight. so many souls come here each week for inspiration and support, and you never fail to deliver.

with love + excitement,

derek russell soulful sunday